Thank you all for your ongoing support. I have definitely gotten into the pattern of freezing up, not spending anything and then splurging. That was actually a long time ago for me, haven't done that in a while.

So my husband just did the shopping for groceries. I made two cakes. My son had two bites but everyone else enjoyed them and had a good time overall. The party was a success. I feel so much more relieved and rational about spending and life.

As far as budgeting for parties and such, I used to always do that as well. You can't always plan for a wedding, so that was my way of planning. We recently went to one income and that is why things feel so scary right now. We will have two cars paid off in less than a year, which will allow for a lot more flexibility. As someone said in their comments, this is a marathon...not a sprint. I want the cc debt to be a sprint and the saving to be the marathon. Once again, it all must be kept in perspective.